Emotional Bank Account
I often find sharing this simple, research-based concept to be very helpful with many couples I work with. In a six-year follow-up study of newlywed couples, Dr. John Gottman found that those who remained married …
Premarital Counseling
Premarital counseling can be a valuable investment for couples who are planning to get married. A couples therapist trained in premarital counseling can help you through this process in the following ways: Build a Stronger …
Infertility Awareness Week
With infertility awareness week rounding the corner on April 23 -29, it is striking to me that the experience of infertility is far more lasting that seven days. Those living with the ambiguous loss and …
Love Laboratory
Way back in the 1980s, mathematician and psychologist Dr. John Gottman persuaded the fine folk at the University of Washington to build a little apartment. A little place in the woods where couples could stay …
Bids For Connection
One important factor in a successful relationship is how people pay attention to each other. Choosing to turn towards, rather than turning away or against, each other’s bids for connection help to establish a foundation for …
Your Partner Is Not A Mind Reader
Many times I have had couples come to counseling because they are having misunderstandings or unhealthy communication styles. So many times I hear “we have communication problems.” And they are right. Couples usually enter into …