Deep Pain Cannot Be Solved. It Can Only Be Witnessed.
Deep Pain Cannot Be Solved. It Can Only Be Witnessed. We live in a culture that is deeply uncomfortable with suffering. We are taught that every problem has a solution, every feeling has a coping …
Relationship Work: The Hidden Burden of Understanding
The Relationship Work No One Talks About A therapist’s reflection on hermeneutic labor, emotional exhaustion, and the hidden burden of understanding. There is a particular kind of exhaustion that does not come from work, parenting, …
Everyday Conflicts: Why You’re (Still) Fighting About the Dishes
Everyday Conflicts: Why You’re (Still) Fighting About the Dishes You’re in the kitchen. One of you sighs loudly while loading the dishwasher. The other snaps, “If it bothers you that much, just say something.” And …
Narcissism: The Chilling Case of Sonia K.
Narcissism is often used in today’s society, but many do not understand what true narcissism entails. There are maybe two or three times in the career of a clinician that you will encounter a truly …
“What’s More Romantic than Being Understood?”
“What’s more romantic than being understood?” This tagline came from one of my favorite games called “We’re Not Really Strangers.” This card game includes a range of questions, from lighthearted and fun to deep and intimate, …
Unlocking Hidden Fantasies
Unlocking Hidden Fantasies In the 2024 film Babygirl, a powerful, accomplished woman—played by Nicole Kidman—finds her carefully ordered life unraveling after she becomes entangled in a risky relationship that exposes a side of her she has …
