Navigating the Aftermath of Betrayal
Betrayal and Its Aftermath “What now?” The question comes from a deep place of pain and confusion. It summarizes the angst and fear that arises after betrayal or abandonment—or both. Strategies are needed to navigate …
Discover Your Inner Teenager
What does it mean to “discover your inner teenager”? Many adults carry an inner teenager—a part of themselves that developed during adolescence in response to unmet emotional needs, family dynamics, and experiences of powerlessness, invalidation, …
Navigating Change as a Couple and Family
Navigating Change as a Couple and Family _______________________________________ Change is a natural part of life, yet navigating change can be difficult. Sometimes change is exciting and something we have been looking forward to–starting a new …
Deep Pain Cannot Be Solved. It Can Only Be Witnessed.
Deep Pain Cannot Be Solved. It Can Only Be Witnessed. We live in a culture that is deeply uncomfortable with suffering. We are taught that every problem has a solution, every feeling has a coping …
Relationship Work: The Hidden Burden of Understanding
The Relationship Work No One Talks About A therapist’s reflection on hermeneutic labor, emotional exhaustion, and the hidden burden of understanding. There is a particular kind of exhaustion that does not come from work, parenting, …
Everyday Conflicts: Why You’re (Still) Fighting About the Dishes
Everyday Conflicts: Why You’re (Still) Fighting About the Dishes You’re in the kitchen. One of you sighs loudly while loading the dishwasher. The other snaps, “If it bothers you that much, just say something.” And …
