Relationship Work: The Hidden Burden of Understanding
The Relationship Work No One Talks About A therapist’s reflection on hermeneutic labor, emotional exhaustion, and the hidden burden of understanding. There is a particular kind of exhaustion that does not come from work, parenting, …
Everyday Conflicts: Why You’re (Still) Fighting About the Dishes
Everyday Conflicts: Why You’re (Still) Fighting About the Dishes You’re in the kitchen. One of you sighs loudly while loading the dishwasher. The other snaps, “If it bothers you that much, just say something.” And …
“What’s More Romantic than Being Understood?”
“What’s more romantic than being understood?” This tagline came from one of my favorite games called “We’re Not Really Strangers.” This card game includes a range of questions, from lighthearted and fun to deep and intimate, …
Ask / Offer / Do: 3 Steps To Meet Each Other’s Needs
Ask / Offer / Do: 3 Steps To Meet Each Other’s Needs Learning how to meet each other’s needs–sounds pretty basic, right? It’s probably common sense that anyone in a relationship, even a pretty darn …
Attachment in Relationships
Attachment and How It Affects Relationships In 1969, British psychologist John Bowlby revolutionized the way we think of how humans bond with others, and how it affects our relationships throughout the lifespan. Bowlby noted that …
The Quiet Skill That Transforms Couples Conflict: Self-Regulation
The Quiet Skill That Transforms Couples Conflict: Self-Regulation Oftentimes, when we feel out of control in an argument, we are actually feeling out of control within ourselves. Our fight/flight response takes over; we feel overwhelmed …
