Bids For Connection
One important factor in a successful relationship is how people pay attention to each other. Choosing to turn towards, rather than turning away or against, each other’s bids for connection help to establish a foundation for …
Your Partner Is Not A Mind Reader
Many times I have had couples come to counseling because they are having misunderstandings or unhealthy communication styles. So many times I hear “we have communication problems.” And they are right. Couples usually enter into …
Tips for Navigating Couple Conflict
Most couples come to therapy at their tipping points; when something has happened, when they are in crisis, and when they need help and tools to fix it! Until then, they may stumble through marrital …
Boundaries Made Better
Boundaries can be defined as needs and expectations that help us feel safe in our relationships. Creating and practicing healthy boundaries leads to feeling respected, loved, and safe. Boundaries indicate how you allow people to show …
Considering Couples Counseling?
If you are reading this, you might be wondering if you need couples counseling. I’m not here to say you do or don’t – that’s for you to decide. But having been through couples counseling …
The Problem with Validation
I am aware that the title of this blog might stir up strong feelings in some people. I imagine two camps. One says, “heck yes, validation is a problem”, while the other says, “Everyone deserves …
