Relationship Work: The Hidden Burden of Understanding
The Relationship Work No One Talks About A therapist’s reflection on hermeneutic labor, emotional exhaustion, and the hidden burden of understanding. There is a particular kind of exhaustion that does not come from work, parenting, …
The Quiet Skill That Transforms Couples Conflict: Self-Regulation
The Quiet Skill That Transforms Couples Conflict: Self-Regulation Oftentimes, when we feel out of control in an argument, we are actually feeling out of control within ourselves. Our fight/flight response takes over; we feel overwhelmed …
7 Powerful Strategies for High-Conflict Couples
7 Powerful Strategies for High-Conflict Couples Every couple argues. But for some, conflict becomes a constant pattern — a familiar but exhausting cycle of blame, reactivity, and disconnection. These high-conflict relationships can feel like emotional …
I Want Flowers, But I Don’t Want To Tell You I Want Flowers
You’ve had a tough week, and all you want is a sweet and simple gesture from your partner- flowers, perhaps. But you don’t want to ask for them…so instead of asking for the flowers, you …
Externalization: Name that feeling…Literally
What Would You Name Your Feeling? Usually, when we experience our emotions, we feel them internally. We think about how we are affected, how we could be the cause, the shame we feel inside, etc. …
