‘Should’ is Not Your Friend
I’d like to start with a little levity that I sometimes share with clients when they’re being too hard on themselves: “Don’t ‘should’ on yourself.” If you can pardon the tacky humor, read on. I …
Are You on Opposite Sides of the Mountain?
The Importance of Perspective We often make the mistake of assuming that our view of a relationship is the only correct view. We tend to see the relationship from our perspective and get mad or …
Beyond Manicures and Bubble Baths: Amp Up Your Self-Care Practice
In December of 2020, I was invited to speak to a group of women at a synagogue in San Francisco about a topic of my choice; one that would hopefully make a difference in the …
Emotional Bank Account
I often find sharing this simple, research-based concept to be very helpful with many couples I work with. In a six-year follow-up study of newlywed couples, Dr. John Gottman found that those who remained married …
Love Laboratory
Way back in the 1980s, mathematician and psychologist Dr. John Gottman persuaded the fine folk at the University of Washington to build a little apartment. A little place in the woods where couples could stay …
Bids For Connection
One important factor in a successful relationship is how people pay attention to each other. Choosing to turn towards, rather than turning away or against, each other’s bids for connection help to establish a foundation for …