Bicultural Couples and the Holidays
With the holiday season upon us and another year ending, we face the typical obligations and expectations of celebrating the holidays as a family member, individual, and partner in a relationship. This can look like …
Bibliotherapy with Children
Definition of Bibliotherapy Bibliotherapy is the process of growing toward good emotional health through the medium of literature, including picture books, poetry, and chapter books. Bibliotherapy can enhance a child’s self-concept and improve self-understanding. It …
‘Should’ is Not Your Friend
I’d like to start with a little levity that I sometimes share with clients when they’re being too hard on themselves: “Don’t ‘should’ on yourself.” If you can pardon the tacky humor, read on. I …
Are You on Opposite Sides of the Mountain?
The Importance of Perspective We often make the mistake of assuming that our view of a relationship is the only correct view. We tend to see the relationship from our perspective and get mad or …
Beyond Manicures and Bubble Baths: Amp Up Your Self-Care Practice
In December of 2020, I was invited to speak to a group of women at a synagogue in San Francisco about a topic of my choice; one that would hopefully make a difference in the …
Emotional Bank Account
I often find sharing this simple, research-based concept to be very helpful with many couples I work with. In a six-year follow-up study of newlywed couples, Dr. John Gottman found that those who remained married …