Love Laboratory
Way back in the 1980s, mathematician and psychologist Dr. John Gottman persuaded the fine folk at the University of Washington to build a little apartment. A little place in the woods where couples could stay …
Bids For Connection
One important factor in a successful relationship is how people pay attention to each other. Choosing to turn towards, rather than turning away or against, each other’s bids for connection help to establish a foundation for …
Your Partner Is Not A Mind Reader
Many times I have had couples come to counseling because they are having misunderstandings or unhealthy communication styles. So many times I hear “we have communication problems.” And they are right. Couples usually enter into …
Tips for Navigating Couple Conflict
Most couples come to therapy at their tipping points; when something has happened, when they are in crisis, and when they need help and tools to fix it! Until then, they may stumble through marrital …
Considering Couples Counseling?
If you are reading this, you might be wondering if you need couples counseling. I’m not here to say you do or don’t – that’s for you to decide. But having been through couples counseling …
The Problem with Validation
I am aware that the title of this blog might stir up strong feelings in some people. I imagine two camps. One says, “heck yes, validation is a problem”, while the other says, “Everyone deserves …
