Infertility Awareness Week
With infertility awareness week rounding the corner on April 23 -29, it is striking to me that the experience of infertility is far more lasting that seven days. Those living with the ambiguous loss and …
One important factor in a successful relationship is how people pay attention to each other. Choosing to turn towards, rather than turning away or against, each other’s bids for connection help to establish a foundation for a strong and successful relationship. People are wired for connection. Therefore, people make bids to feel connected with others.
Bids for connection come in lots of different ways – some are easier to see than others. They can be verbal or nonverbal. They can be emotional, intellectual, or physical. They can be serious or humorous. They can be sexual or nonsexual. Bids can come as questions, comments, and statements.
There are three ways to respond to bids: turning toward, turning away, and turning against.
Turning toward response has the most positive and successful results. It provides evidence that your loved ones care for you and want to be there for you.
When you are more aware of bids and how they play out in relationships, you will start to notice more bids and opportunities to connect. If you having trouble connecting in your relationship, please give me a call or schedule an appointment online. I would love to support you in strengthening your relationships.
For help navigating bids for connection in your relationship or to discuss any other matter in more detail, schedule an appointment with Lily Ha here.