Creative Hopelessness
“I wish we would have come in sooner” and “I just want to be happy” are two statements I hear repeatedly in my office. Couples realize how much they have been holding on to their …
Accepting the Uncomfortable – Not All Spaces are Safe
Are My Emotions Facts? Emotions are just emotions and thoughts are only thoughts. They are not always facts or truth. When I first heard this phrase, I got angry. “What do you mean my emotions/thoughts …
The Gift of Pain and Loss
We are entering the second month of a new year. It has been about a full year since our lives changed because of the pandemic. Some of us have lost a loved one or maybe …
Letting Go of Resentment
What are the two most healing words in the English language? “I’m Sorry.” When those two words are genuinely said, it can repair a relationship and, in turn, allow a space for a deeper …
Regaining Self-Compassion
As I’m counseling clients virtually during this pandemic, one of the common phrases I hear is, “Others have it much worse.” There’s a lot of discounted grief and pain. There’s a certain guilt or …
Staying Sane in the Midst of Chaos
We are in an ambiguous time. Our usual planning for the next several weeks or months in advance has been reduced to the latest Netflix show to watch, book to read, or game to …
