When a Goal Becomes a Measure of Worth
Have you ever set an important goal and then found yourself feeling anxious, pressured, or even terrified that you might not achieve it? Maybe the goal is a promotion, a relationship, a financial milestone, a …
The Essential Ingredient for Successful Therapy
Countless approaches to therapy exist: ACT. CBT. EMDR. IFS. EFT. DBT. Narrative therapy. Psychodynamic therapy. Somatic work. Exposure and response prevention. The list goes on. The different approaches matter: the right intervention, delivered at the …
Discover Your Inner Teenager
What does it mean to “discover your inner teenager”? Many adults carry an inner teenager—a part of themselves that developed during adolescence in response to unmet emotional needs, family dynamics, and experiences of powerlessness, invalidation, …
Deep Pain Cannot Be Solved. It Can Only Be Witnessed.
Deep Pain Cannot Be Solved. It Can Only Be Witnessed. We live in a culture that is deeply uncomfortable with suffering. We are taught that every problem has a solution, every feeling has a coping …
Relationship Work: The Hidden Burden of Understanding
The Relationship Work No One Talks About A therapist’s reflection on hermeneutic labor, emotional exhaustion, and the hidden burden of understanding. There is a particular kind of exhaustion that does not come from work, parenting, …
Narcissism: The Chilling Case of Sonia K.
Narcissism is often used in today’s society, but many do not understand what true narcissism entails. There are maybe two or three times in the career of a clinician that you will encounter a truly …
