Contrition
Why write about contrition? This blog comes from my research on understanding how contrition is used in secular and religious contexts. I often hear the word contrition when working with couples, but it seems to …
Turning Shame into Accountability
How do you relate to yourself when your humanity is showing? Do you defend yourself fervently and rationalize your choices? Do you criticize yourself and call yourself mean names? Spoiler alert: these two responses tend …
Am I Emotionally Immature?
Am I emotionally immature? And no, I do not mean elementary school slapstick-humor immaturity. What is emotional immaturity? I mean, am I showing up in my relationships lacking the maturity to properly handle my own …
‘Should’ is Not Your Friend
I’d like to start with a little levity that I sometimes share with clients when they’re being too hard on themselves: “Don’t ‘should’ on yourself.” If you can pardon the tacky humor, read on. I …
Who’s On Stage?
Set the Stage At a moment’s notice, any given situation can elicit a variety of different reactions from within. Think for a moment about such a situation. You encounter an aggressive driver as you commute …
Finding Joy in the Darkness
Joyful moments are sprinkled all throughout our life. Yet in day-to-day circumstances, and in the midst of adjusting to a world of new normals, finding joy in the darkness can sometimes feel elusive. Often, things …
