Considering Couples Counseling?

Couples Counseling

Considering Couples Counseling?

By Michael McVey October 31, 2022 10.31.2022 Share:
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If you are reading this, you might be wondering if you need couples counseling. I’m not here to say you do or don’t – that’s for you to decide. But having been through couples counseling myself, I would say that EVERYONE can benefit from it, even if they don’t necessarily need it. Let’s set aside the question of need for a moment and ask these questions instead:

  • Can couples counseling help me better enjoy my life and my relationship?
  • Can it help me understand my partner, and why they think, feel, and act the way they do?
  • Can it enrich our journey together and strengthen our bonds?
  • Can it do all this while also helping us feel more independent and secure in who we are as individuals?

The answer to all the above is an unqualified yes! 

Other Practical Reasons to Consider Couples Counseling

  • Rebuilding trust. It’s often said that after betrayal, your previous relationship is over. You must now choose to build a new one together. Most couples need help with this.
  • Overcoming trauma, grief, or loss of a loved one.
  • Post-honeymoon couples counseling. After the marriage, many couples enjoy a honeymoon. And most couples experience a honeymoon period. A time where everything is magical and fun, and passion is overflowing. But over time, life has a way of chipping away at the magic and the fun. There sometimes comes a point when we have to be intentional about growing the relationship as opposed to letting it wither.
  • Life transitions. Getting married, getting engaged, relocating, retiring; starting a family, kids starting school, kids entering teen years, leaving the nest, getting married; grandkids; family members passing, etc. Any of these can upset the balance of the family system. Sometimes they require significant adjustments.
  • Communication problems. Probably the most common reason couples seek counseling.
  • Concerns with sex life.
  • Preventing a divorce. There are four key indicators that one might be coming, but also four ways to turn things around.
  • Facilitating divorce. When one or both partners want to end the relationship, an amicable separation is in everyone’s best interest. Especially the kids.


If you’re interested in couples counseling or would like to discuss any other matter in more detail, schedule an appointment with Michael McVey here.

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