“I try to connect with my partner, but he just shuts me down. I have tried to share many times in the past the issues I have regarding my boss, but my partner just criticizes me for what I am not doing instead of listening to me. Every time I talk to my wife, she just shames me for my decisions. My partner is here, but I can’t talk to them. I feel so alone.”
Do any of the statements above sound similar to something you’ve experienced in your relationship? Are you tired of trying to share your world with your partner and get shut down or shut out? If so, you are in the right spot. I hope my blog gives you a quick educational snippet of what emotional safety is and how, without it, relationships tend to suffer.
What is Emotional Safety?
Emotional safety refers to a state when an individual is able to be truly open and vulnerable in a relationship. When an individual feels emotionally safe, their social connections tend to thrive. When social connections are thriving, long-term relationships can be cultivated!
How is Emotional Safety Disrupted in a Relationship?
Threats to emotional safety in a relationship can come in all forms. From my experience, it is not the BIG arguments that cause couples to come into therapy. It is the SUBTLE threats that build and build over time that lead couples to question what has happened them. These subtle threats include: feeling attacked and then feeling the need to counterattack, shutting down, being judged, being criticized, and being shamed.\
How Can Emotional Safety Be Rebuilt?
Rebuilding emotional safety and reconnecting with your partner can be a daunting process. Here are just a few tips to rebuild emotional safety: effective communication, fair fighting, soft start up, acceptance, and love.
As research states, emotional safety is a key component of a long last relationship. When a person’s mind and body feel safe, their connections and relationship tend to thrive. If you and your partner are still feeling overwhelmed, please give me a call and I would love to help you rebuild the relationship you want and deserve!