Is it really okay for me to do that to loved ones? Absolutely!
When it comes to the people we care about, it is typically common practice to try our best to show how much we appreciate them in some form or fashion, whether that looks like showing up for someone when they are going through a hard time or buying gifts when you come across something that you know they would love! But there may be times when you can’t match your energy level to the enthusiasm your loved one deserves, or it’s becoming harder to say no to people. When you set boundaries, not only will you be protecting your long-term mental health and well-being, but you will also be advocating for yourself by establishing standards and expectations to promote healthier relationships. You can also prevent burnout and exhaustion by prioritizing your needs and time while enhancing your self-respect and self-esteem. You owe yourself the love and energy you so freely give others!
“Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves even when we risk disappointing others.”
– Brene Brown
“Thank you for your offer. Unfortunately, I can’t make it.”
“I want to spend time with you, and right now, I need some time
alone to recharge.”
“I know I’m putting myself first, but that’s what I need right now.”
“No.”
“I can only stay for ___.”
“I can’t make it because I’ll have something else going on.”
“I respect your thoughts on this matter, but this is my decision.”
Setting boundaries can be difficult for people who have trouble saying no. But I’m here to tell you that it doesn’t make you a bad person to do what you need to do to regain a sense of control in your life and feel more confident in the decisions you make. Your time and energy are precious, and you should decide how you use them.
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