Is It Your Gut or Your Guilt?
Should I follow my heart or my gut? My heart is telling me to do one thing and my gut is telling me another. Have you ever found yourself in a position like this… trying to make a decision and having a hard time figuring out what to listen to? Go with my heart or go with my gut? Our heart guides us to the future that we want and sometimes what we very much hope for. However, sometimes chasing after what we very much want or holding onto something we really hope for can blur the reality of what is really happening right in front of us. Our heart, or better-said hope, can drown out what our gut is really trying to tell us. If we just don’t talk about that issue, he won’t leave me. Even though I don’t have enough money, I can get this apartment and things will be okay. Moreover, what I’ve noticed even more when it comes to making tough decisions… there is a third factor that comes into play. That factor is GUILT. I notice myself asking many clients is it your gut that’s driving you to make that decision or is it guilt? When we feel guilty, we make decisions out of obligation and we may even feel the need to make something right. But when feel obligated, we have to be honest and ask ourselves:
- Am I making this decision because it is something I really want?
- Am I making this decision because I should?
- Am I making this decision because she/he made me feel bad?
- Am I making this decision solely out of fear of what someone else may think?
Making decisions can be hard enough and if you are feeling confused about any or all of the above… is this my heart? My gut? Or my guilt? Please give me a call and I can help navigate you through this time in your life. We can get to the root of your behaviors and help you to make the best and healthiest decision for you.