Why Is It So Hard for Me to Say No?

Do you find it difficult to say no to friends, co-workers, etc. if they ask for help?  Do you tend to value other people’s happiness at the cost of yours?  Do you notice yourself getting worn out because you devote so much time to others and little time to yourself?  If you answered a yes to any of these questions, maybe the term people pleaser or yes man apply to you?

People pleasing behaviors can stem from different core issues, including low self-worth, the insatiable desire to be accepted and liked, and a history of unhealthy interpersonal relationships. 

Over time, people pleasing behaviors can lead to short and long-term problems.  It puts major stress on you mentally and emotionally, which can lead to physical health issues include changes in diet and sleep routine.

I am completed over-committed… I have no energy left to give.”

If you can relate to any of the concerns above and want to work away from people pleasing or saying yes to everything and everyone, here are a few tips:

  • Remember it is okay to say no!

  • Healthy boundaries are important.

  • Consider the value in saying yes versus the value in saying no.

  • Check in with your health and take care of yourself.

  • We all have a choice in what we do and don’t do.

  • You can be more helpful if you’re a healthier version of you.

If you are experiencing any of these concerns and have noticed it’s been a struggle to manage your commitments, please give me a call and I would love to help you establish some healthy boundaries and increase your confidence to take control back in your life.